Every so-called "gifted child" has a gifted parent. In his brilliant book How To Be A Gifted Parent, David Lewis, the world famous British psychologist and writer, lists 40 statements that describe the traits of gifted parents. He suggests that parents take the following test and respond to each statement.

1. I answer all questions from my child as patiently and honestly as possible.
2. I take serious questions or statements from my child seriously.
3. I provide a bulletin board where my child can show off his/her work.
4. I am prepared to tolerate an untidy work area if my child has not yet completed some creative task (i.e., painting, etc.).
5. I provide my child with a room or part of the room, exclusively for his/her own use.
6. I show my child he/she is loved for his/her own sake, not for achievements.
7. I give my child responsibilities suitable to his/her age.
8. I help him/her make his/her own plans and decisions.
9. I take my child on trips to places of interest.
10. I teach my child how to improve on the task he/she does.
11. I encourage my child to get along with children from different backgrounds.
12. I set a reasonable standard of behavior and see that my child follows it.
13. I never compare my child unfavorably to other children.
14. I never denigrate my child as a form of punishment.
15. I provide hobby materials and books.
16. I encourage my child to think things out for himself/herself.
17. I read regularly to my child.
18. I teach my child early reading habits.
19. I encourage my child to invent stories and fantasies.
20. I give careful consideration to the individual needs of each child.
21. I provide a time each day when my child can be alone with me.
22. I allow my child to have a say in making family plans or trips.
23. I never mock my child for making a mistake.
24. I encourage my child to remember stories, poems, and songs.
25. I encourage my child to be sociable with adults of all ages.
26. I devise practical experiments to help my child find out about things.
27. I allow my child to play with all kinds of junk objects.
28. I encourage my child to look for problems and then solve them.
29. I look for specific things to praise in my child's activities.
30. I avoid general praise, which I do not really mean.
31. I am honest about my emotions with my child.
32. I do not have any subjects, which I would totally refuse to discuss with my child.
33. I provide opportunities for real decision making by my child.
34. I encourage my child to be an individual.
35. I help my child find worthwhile programs on TV.
36. I encourage my child to think positively about his/her abilities.
37. I never dismiss failures by my child with the comment: "I can't do it either!"
38. I encourage my child to be as independent of adults as possible.
39. I have faith in my child's good sense and trust him/her.
40. I would sooner my child failed by himself/herself than succeeded because I did most of the work.

He recommends that you score yourself by adding all the check marks and if you can answer a statement as something you do frequently but not all the time, then give yourself 1/2 point. Gifted parents in his study scored 30 points and above. If you scored less than that, he suggests that you try to incorporate some of these activities into your daily routine.



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